Although my husband has given me a lot to complain about over the years, I can say that being tied to his mother's apron string was never an issue.
After he graduated high school he left home to go into the Marines and he really never went back.
His mother married an unpleasant man and Tom never got along with him so it was easy to stay away.
She did have a hold on him, but it was really one of obligation and guilt more than anything else.
She could wish with all her might, but Tom would never be a Mama's boy.